Kaytwo you really have my sympathy. But I think Fiftysomething is right and you should talk to him about it. A friend of mine was in exactly the same situation, though it was made worse by her mother being in complete denial. She couldn’t accept her husband was dying, wouldn’t talk about it and wouldn’t let her dad have some of the conversations he wanted to have. It was a really terrible few months and I think they are still dealing with the fallout, 2 years later. Good luck.