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Advice on getting Mum to give up driving

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Hello, I am looking for some advice and hoping someone can help. My 89 year old mum is still driving and she lives in a village where the bus routes have been axed. She has had a couple of near misses with other drivers and I don’t think she is safe to be on the road. She loves living in the village and has a good network of friends but the car is her independence and lifeline. I’m not sure how to tackle this subject with her as she is very stubborn. Thanks!


  • Hello, I am looking for some advice and hoping someone can help. My 89 year old mum is still driving and she lives in a village where the bus routes have been axed. She has had a couple of near misses with other drivers and I don’t think she is safe to be on the road. She loves living in the village and has a good network of friends but the car is her independence and lifeline. I’m not sure how to tackle this subject with her as she is very stubborn. Thanks!

    Oh, this is hard. We got the GP to talk to my Dad because he wouldnt listen to us – unsuccessfully to start with; we then found alternatives for him – a neighbour who was very happy to drive him about as and when which we supplemented with local car services. Its not ideal, but at least he (and the rest of the village) is safe. Someone told us that they literally removed the car keys from their Mum – which is a bit drastic. Good luck.

    With my Dad we kept asking and he kept saying he wasn’t going far etc but eventually we got the GP to suggest it was time and thankfully eventually he agreed. Mum then tried to drive having not driven for years – only did it once and found it so stressful never did again.
    My husband literally took the keys of his father (he was 89) as his mother kept forcing him to drive – he was terminally ill and very unwell. I do believe doctors and consultants should advise infirm elderly people to stop.

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